Avail NYC exists to be a safe haven for women and men facing an unexpected pregnancy or seeking support after an abortion. We are not a medical provider.
Experiencing an unexpected pregnancy and abortion can be overwhelming. There’s a lot you may have been through, both individually and with your partner. Things might not be the same with you and your partner; it’s common to face new challenges in your relationship after this experience. Identifying changes, learning to communicate, setting boundaries, and finding support can help you and your partner through this process.
Many women struggle with a mix of difficult emotions following an abortion, including sorrow and regret, on top of lingering pain and discomfort. These emotions can be especially hard to cope with if you feel you have no one to go to for empathy and support.
Many men feel confused, impatient, and helpless in the face of their partner’s pain. Others feel despair as they grieve the loss of the pregnancy.
Communication often becomes strained as each partner attacks and isolates in an effort to self-protect and deal with their own hurt. Let’s face it: it’s hard to offer support to someone else when you are working through your own pain! If you and your partner have experienced any of these thoughts or emotions, you are not alone. They are very common following an abortion and would likely take a toll on any relationship.
Communicating with your partner is essential as you walk through this post-abortion process together. Here are some tips on communicating well with your partner in the midst of this difficult time:
If over time your partner is unwilling to communicate with you in a healthy way, you may need to consider setting new boundaries that help you process and move forward after your abortion. If you are feeling angry, resentful, or triggered by your partner, it might be time to examine your boundaries in that relationship. Boundaries do not need to be unkind or selfish, but actually express that you value your relationship in the long term. Think through what boundaries could help you (physical, emotional, time) and communicate those clearly with your partner. Let them know what you need and act on your boundaries. This short-term discomfort can benefit you and your partner as individuals and as a couple moving forward.
Talking this through with another trusted support person can be very helpful. Avail NYC offers a confidential space to talk about your relationship, help you process your pain, and support your journey toward healing. If you or your partner would like additional help in developing a healthy relationship or processing a past abortion, we are here to help. Appointments are free and available for you to meet individually with a male or female client advocate or together as a couple.
Avail NYC exists to be a safe haven for women and men facing an unexpected pregnancy or seeking support after an abortion. We are not a medical provider.
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Avail NYC provides free, compassionate support for women and men navigating unexpected pregnancies or seeking support after an abortion. Our trained Personal Advocates offer a safe, confidential space online or in-person to process emotions and explore options. Equipping clients with personalized coping strategies and resources, we empower them to move forward with confidence at their own pace. Avail NYC is not a medical provider. To learn more or meet with a personal advocate, visit Avail NYC.
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