Balancing an Unplanned Pregnancy in a New Relationship

Balancing an Unplanned Pregnancy in a New Relationship

An unplanned pregnancy by itself is hard to deal with. Getting pregnant in the beginning of a new relationship adds another complicated dimension. You may not know each other that well yet and you aren’t able to predict your partner’s reaction to the news. Will he stick around and be supportive or will he walk away?

Maybe you’re crazy in love. Maybe you’re just “in like.” If he’s willing to stick around, do you want him to? What if he wants to get married? Uncertainty can be hard to handle and we are here to support you at Avail NYC.

When facing an unplanned pregnancy, you might not feel happy and excited, at least not in the beginning. Scared and confused might be more your speed right now. Or maybe you adjust quickly and are digging in, figuring things out, and are ready to make some decisions.

There is no “right” way to feel about an unplanned pregnancy, just as there is no “wrong” way, either. Whichever way you feel, that’s the right one for you.

What We Know

You’re not alone. In 2011, nearly half (45% or 2.8 million) of the 6.1 million pregnancies in the United States each year were unintended, according to the Guttmacher Institute. That’s 2.8 million women just like you, every year.

Your life isn’t over. With 2.8 million women each year finding themselves unexpectedly pregnant, it’s reasonable to expect that people are more used to single women getting pregnant than in the past, and there is no reason to feel ashamed. The only opinion that matters is yours. There are a lot of young single women who not only parent, but have successful careers, maintain strong relationships, and enjoy fulfilling, rewarding lives.

You Have Options

An unplanned pregnancy isn’t the end of the world because you have options. You can choose abortion, adoption, or parenting. At Avail NYC, we are committed to providing accurate, unbiased information so you can make the best possible decision for YOU. We will answer all of your questions and support you throughout the decision-making process and beyond.

Come in and See Us

Come in and see us at Avail NYC. We can give you a free, self-administered pregnancy test and if it confirms you are pregnant, we can offer you a referral for a free ultrasound to determine if the pregnancy is viable, if it is an ectopic pregnancy (which needs medical treatment right away), and the gestational age. The ultrasound is performed on site by a third-party women’s medical clinic.

Once this is completed, we will give you a decision-making tool that helps you take into account your situation, values, and goals as you decide which path is the best one for you to follow. Our caring advocates will be there for you every step of the way to listen and help you process.

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Avail NYC exists to be a safe haven for women and men facing an unexpected pregnancy or seeking support after an abortion. We are not a medical provider.

What Happens if I’m Pregnant and Single?

What Happens if I’m Pregnant and Single?

Being pregnant and single may feel like the end of the world, but it’s not. There are caring, non-judgmental advocates at Avail NYC to help you and offer the support and understanding you might be needing. You aren’t alone.

Come In For Tests

The first step is finding out whether you’re pregnant or not. We can provide you with a free, self-administered pregnancy test.

If the test confirms your pregnancy, we will offer you a referral to a licensed women’s medical center, which operates a satellite office on-site at Avail, for a free ultrasound. An ultrasound can detect the gestational age and viability of a pregnancy, important information to have when making a decision about how to proceed. It can also rule out an ectopic pregnancy.

Be Informed, Empowered

When facing an unexpected pregnancy while single, you may feel alone, or you may feel pressure from family or friends to choose one path or another.

At Avail, our sole focus is you, and what you decide is best. We provide a linear decision-making tool that helps you consider your situation, values, and goals. You’ll have the opportunity to learn about the benefits and risks of each option you have, and to talk them over with your advocate.

We want you to be informed, so we aim to provide unbiased information so you will have everything you need to make the best possible decision.

If You Choose Abortion

If you choose to have an abortion, be sure to speak with a gynecologist about STD testing, even if you think it’s unlikely you have one. Women who undergo an abortion procedure without treatment for an STD or STI are at risk for pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), a condition that can result in pain and problems with reproductive health.

Avail offers after-abortion support, helping women who have gone through an abortion and may be experiencing unresolved feelings. Many people don’t have a safe place to talk about a past abortion experience. We can provide that safe place for you.

Our after-abortion support group curriculum incorporates “food for thought” quotes, self-care activities, journal prompts, and personal reflections. All group facilitators are staff or volunteers who have their own abortion experiences.

Choosing Parenting or Adoption

If you choose parenting or adoption, Avail will be there for you every step of the way, providing practical support and resources. We offer pregnancy and infant-care classes, a comprehensive parenting education program, ongoing social and emotional support, and other resources.

Make an appointment to come into Avail NYC today. Our caring, compassionate advocates are here for you.

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Avail NYC exists to be a safe haven for women and men facing an unexpected pregnancy or seeking support after an abortion. We are not a medical provider.

 

Free Ultrasound in NYC

Free Ultrasound in NYC

After getting a positive result on a pregnancy test, especially when it’s an unexpected pregnancy, you may have a hard time at first trying to move through the shock and fear to figure out what comes next.

One of your first steps should be an ultrasound. There are several reasons for this to be an important next step for you. First, an ultrasound can confirm the viability of the pregnancy and also tell you how far along you are. The benefit of knowing this information is that you can begin to make decisions confidently with accurate information.

Come For Free Services

When you come in for an appointment at Avail NYC, our caring client advocates are ready to offer confidential support.

We will offer you a free, self-administered pregnancy test to confirm your pregnancy. The self-administered test takes only a few minutes to give results. If your pregnancy is confirmed, we will offer you a free ultrasound exam by referral to a women’s medical clinic which operates a satellite office at Avail NYC.

Ultrasound exams will further confirm pregnancy, determine if it is viable or if it is an ectopic pregnancy (which can be dangerous and may require medical treatment), and will also tell you how far along you are into the pregnancy.

An ultrasound exam uses high-frequency sound waves to capture images inside your body and is generally performed at seven to eight weeks of pregnancy. An ultrasound exam can be a useful tool for you in your decision-making process, and results are often available the same day.

Be Informed, Empowered

Our client advocates are here to help you through not only the testing phase, but afterward, to process what you have learned. If you are facing an unexpected pregnancy, you are not alone. We understand how important it is to have emotional support while facing the unknown.

Our advocates will not only help you understand the choices you have–abortion, parenting, and adoption–they will be available to support you in your decision.

Your advocate will offer and guide you through a decision-making tool that will help you to decide the right option for you, in an unbiased manner, without any pressure. Our goal is to give you all the information you need in a clear and kind manner.

We will address any concerns you may have, and can even help you tell your family and partner. Our advocates are here to support YOU.

If you are pregnant (or think you are pregnant), contact us today to talk to an advocate.

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Avail NYC exists to be a safe haven for women and men facing an unexpected pregnancy or seeking support after an abortion. We are not a medical provider.

How Can I Tell I am Pregnant?

How Can I Tell I am Pregnant?

How can you tell you’re pregnant? It’s a question that may keep circling around your mind, especially if you aren’t expecting, or wanting, to get pregnant. At Avail NYC, we understand and want to make sure you have all the information you need.

A missed period is the most obvious symptom, but there are a number of other symptoms that can also point to pregnancy, as long as you know what to look for.

In the end, though, there is only one way to be absolutely certain of pregnancy and that is a pregnancy test followed up by an ultrasound.

Symptoms of Pregnancy

  • A missed period, of course, is the main symptom of pregnancy if it’s a week or more late. If you have an irregular cycle, however, a late period does not necessarily indicate pregnancy.
  • Fatigue. The hormone level of progesterone increases rapidly in early pregnancy and can be the source of that tired feeling.
  • Nausea, also called morning sickness, can vary widely. Some women never experience it, while others can’t seem to stop vomiting. Most women, though, land somewhere in the middle. The nickname is a bit misleading as this can occur any time of day or night.
  • Tender, swollen breasts often catch your attention because they are uncomfortable. If you are one of those women who experiences this symptom each month when you get your period, it may not be an obvious sign of pregnancy. This usually does not last more than a few weeks.
  • Urinating more frequently. According to Mayo Clinic, “You might find yourself urinating more often than usual. The amount of blood in your body increases during pregnancy, causing your kidneys to process extra fluid that ends up in your bladder.”
  • Moodiness may be part of your period symptoms, but it can also strike when pregnant. You may find yourself more emotional and irritable than usual, or possibly having mood swings as well.
  • Food aversions or cravings can also be caused by hormonal changes. You may become temporarily more sensitive to certain foods, or their odor. For instance, you may decide you can’t stand the smell of microwave popcorn, something you have always loved. On the other hand, you might find yourself craving one type of food or food combination very strongly.
  • Bloating can be chalked up to hormones as well. You may feel bloated, similar to when getting your period.
  • Cramping can also occur early on, leading you to think your period is coming.
  • Light spotting is another symptom that can be misleading. “Known as implantation bleeding, it happens when the fertilized egg attaches to the lining of the uterus, about 10 to 14 days after conception,” Mayo Clinic notes. “Implantation bleeding occurs around the time of a menstrual period. However, not all women have it.” If you have any concern whatsoever about spotting, or bleeding becomes any heavier, contact your doctor immediately.
  • Constipation can also be a hormone side effect, where the digestive system slows down.
  • Nasal congestion can be another pesky symptom thanks to hormones and an increase in blood production.

Find Out For Sure

The one way to find out for sure if you are pregnant is a pregnancy test. Make an appointment to come into Avail NYC, where we can give you a free, self-administered, lab-quality urine test. If it comes back positive, we can refer you for a free ultrasound that will tell you if the pregnancy is viable, and how far along you are.

Our caring, compassionate advocates are here to empower you and help you get the information you need so you can make a thoughtful decision about an unexpected pregnancy.

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Avail Offers Free Pregnancy Tests

Avail Offers Free Pregnancy Tests

Being faced with an unplanned pregnancy is always a little frightening. In one moment, you’re suddenly facing the prospect of parenthood. In the few seconds it takes to check the test, everything changes.

The first moments after seeing a positive pregnancy test can feel like a whirlwind, and you may find yourself with lots of questions and very few answers. What do I do now? Who do I tell? Am I ready for this? Should I take another test? There won’t necessarily be easy answers to all the questions you’ll find yourself asking, but taking the right steps now can help you make a confident decision for your future.

Stay Calm

Panic is often a first instinct after a positive pregnancy test when parenthood isn’t currently in the plans. However, it’s important to stay as calm as possible. Excessive stress isn’t good for your health, so do what you can to stay calm, whether it is your preferred form of self-care or another relaxation method. If you can, talk over your situation with loved ones like parents, partners, and close friends, and don’t hesitate to lean on those around you.

Take a Test

You’ve probably already taken a test, but before making any big decisions, you should probably take another.

Early pregnancies can be unpredictable; a significant percentage of pregnancies in the first few weeks end in miscarriage, often before a woman even knows she’s pregnant. Before making any decisions, it’s important to get an accurate test. You don’t have to wait and wonder. At Avail NYC, free same-day pregnancy test appointments are always available, giving you a caring, confidential resource at any time. With a self-administered, laboratory-quality pregnancy test from Avail, you can confirm your pregnancy and learn more about the options available to you.

Talk to Someone

If you’re not sure how you want to proceed with your pregnancy, a listening ear can be a huge benefit, helping you to evaluate your options and make an educated decision. At Avail NYC, we offer client advocacy services for women facing unplanned pregnancy in addition to free same-day pregnancy test appointments, giving you the tools to fully evaluate your situation and make an empowered choice.

If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy and aren’t sure where to turn, Avail NYC is here for you. With free same-day self-administered pregnancy tests, confidential advocates, and even further resources, we’ll be by your side every step of the way.

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How to Tell My Mom I’m Pregnant

How to Tell My Mom I’m Pregnant

Caitlin sits in her room, crying so hard her whole body shakes. So many thoughts run through her head. Mostly just no, repeated over and over. Until her mom knocks on the door and asks, “What’s wrong? Caitlin?”

On the other side of town, Shaunda sits in class. Her eyes are red, but no one really notices. She keeps her head down and tries to focus on her exam, but her mind is awhirl. When her shoulders start to shake, her professor comes over, puts a hand on hers, and quietly asks, “Is something wrong? Can I help you?”

A third girl, Phoebe, looks at her best friend as they walk through the park. She asks the big question, the one that is running through each girl’s mind: “How do I tell my mom I’m pregnant?”

Look at Your Options

We know an unexpected pregnancy can be really tough news to get. The shock and fear can be paralyzing, and you may not know where to turn, or who you can talk to at first. Despite what you may be thinking, you are not alone.

Our compassionate, unbiased client advocates are here for you and can help you plan what to say when talking with your mom. They will guide you through a decision-making tool to help you decide which option is right for you.

At Avail NYC, we want to make sure you are informed on each of these choices so you are able to make the best possible decision for you. They can also help you plan how to talk to your mom.

Put Together a Plan

Timing can be important, especially when you have difficult news to share. Plan to tell your mom at a time when she’s not busy with important things, and when there will be plenty of time to talk. If she’s on deadline for a work project or about to rush out the door, that might not be the opportune time. Also, have a backup time, just in case something comes up.

When you do sit down to talk, being direct is usually the best choice. Talking all around a subject when one person doesn’t know what’s at the heart of it can be frustrating, and that won’t help you. Just as you were surprised, expect your mom will be, too. Give her some time to move past that and calm herself. Then, continue the conversation.

She will probably ask what you plan to do, or she may give you her opinion on what she wants you to do. Think about how you want to respond to both of those situations, so you will be prepared. You can probably guess some of the other questions she will ask, too. They likely won’t make for a fun conversation, but spending some time thinking about what she might ask, and what your answer will be, will help you feel more prepared.

Make an appointment to visit Avail. We are here to help you in a non-judgmental environment that is focused on providing the support and information you need. All services are free of charge to our clients.

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Avail NYC exists to be a safe haven for women and men facing an unexpected pregnancy or seeking support after an abortion. We are not a medical provider.

Searching for Pregnancy Support in NYC?

Searching for Pregnancy Support in NYC?

If you are facing an unexpected pregnancy, you are not alone. Each year, thousands of women in New York City find themselves staring in shock at a positive home pregnancy test. Even though this situation is a common one, you may feel as though you are alone and adrift, without anyone to support you.

Because unexpected pregnancies can be tough for women experiencing them, it’s crucial to have a source of emotional support during this time. Often, this support may come from unexpected places. Read on to learn more about the importance of emotional support and where you can turn.

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The Importance of Emotional Support During an Unexpected Pregnancy

The early weeks of pregnancy are a time of near-constant physical and emotional changes. Even if you normally embrace change, dealing with a body and mind that feels entirely outside your control is tough. Having someone to talk to in a non-judgmental environment allows you to vent rather than repressing or internalizing your emotions.

It can also be difficult to make decisions about your future during times of extreme stress. Studies have shown a decrease in higher brain function and decision-making skills in people who are under intense stress, which means reducing your stress level is key to making confident decisions. One of the best ways to do this is to talk through things with your emotional support network, allowing them to share your concerns.

Expanding Your Support Network

If your partner or family isn’t providing you with the support you need, you may want to talk to a non-biased advocate. Avail NYC provides women facing unexpected pregnancies with free pregnancy test kits, referral ultrasounds, and other resources. Our compassionate counselors can help you talk through your options in a judgment-free environment. If you’re pregnant (or think you’re pregnant) and aren’t sure where to turn, contact us today.

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Unplanned Pregnancy Options

Unplanned Pregnancy Options

Unplanned pregnancies are never easy, but they are unfortunately common in the United States. In fact, an estimated 45%, or 2.8 million, pregnancies each year are unintended.

Despite the frequency with which unplanned pregnancies occur, handling the aftermath can be a challenge. While some women know exactly what they want to do from the moment the second line appears on the stick, others need a little help considering their options. When you need a safe, confidential resource to help you make a healthy decision, Avail NYC is always here for you.

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Unplanned Pregnancy Options

When you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy, you have three choices to consider: motherhood, adoption, or abortion.

Motherhood

Motherhood is a rewarding experience for millions of women across the country, and the most common choice following an unintended pregnancy. Parenting a child isn’t easy, even when you’re ready to start a family, but Avail NYC can offer the assistance you need, connecting you with access to local resources that can help with both emotional and financial support.

Adoption

For women who do not want to terminate but are not fully prepared to embrace parenthood, adoption can be the best of both worlds. In this scenario, an adoption agency will coordinate and adoption plan to help place your child with a qualified family. There are two main kinds of adoptions: closed adoptions and open adoptions. In a closed adoption, birth parents and adoptive parents do not share identifying information or have contact with each other. In an open adoption, birth parents and adoptive parents share information freely, communicate with each other, and may schedule periodic visits between the adoptive family and birth mother. Approximately 135,000 children are adopted in the U.S. each year.

Abortion

Abortion is the intentional termination of a pregnancy, induced by medicine or a surgical procedure. In New York state, abortions are legal up to 24 weeks of pregnancy. Some women choose abortion if they feel they are unsupported by family and friends, or fear it is an inopportune time to carry a child. Understandably, abortion is a big decision and may cause mixed feelings for many women. If you are experiencing unresolved emotions following a past abortion, an Avail client advocate or support group can help you process and plan for the future.

Compassionate, Customized Assistance

Making the right choice for your future and your body is a deeply personal process. Choosing to have a child, start an adoption plan, or terminate a pregnancy each come with pros and cons, and only you can ultimately decide the best path forward. If you’d like help in the decision-making process or simply want to talk to someone during this difficult time, Avail NYC can provide support and guidance. Our highly trained client advocates can discuss all of your options with you in a comfortable environment, providing advice, education, and connections to other area resources if necessary. When you schedule an appointment, you will be met with nothing but kindness and compassion as our team works with you to ensure you arrive at the best possible conclusion.

Dealing with an unplanned pregnancy can leave you confused, frustrated, anxious, or scared, but Avail NYC is here for you. Please contact us today to learn more about what our team can do, from lab-quality pregnancy tests to classes and workshops to help you succeed as a parent.

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8 Questions To Ask Yourself When Facing An Unexpected Pregnancy

8 Questions To Ask Yourself When Facing An Unexpected Pregnancy

If you’ve found yourself facing an unexpected pregnancy, your mind may be swimming with thoughts and questions, leaving you overwhelmed with options when choosing a path forward. Read on to consider eight questions that can help you clarify your thoughts, and feel confident you’re making the best possible decision.

#1: What Kind of Support System Do I Have?

Even the most independent new mother needs a strong support system. This doesn’t need to be family, but can include friends, coworkers, and other loved ones who are willing to bring you meals, sit with the baby while you take a shower, and help calm your nerves when you’re facing yet another night of broken sleep. A strong support system can mean all the difference between an enjoyable or more challenging season, during pregnancy and beyond.

#2: Does The Father Want To Be Involved?

The very nature of unexpected pregnancies means that they don’t discriminate between short and long-term relationships. Because of this, the involvement (or lack thereof) of the baby’s father can be a deciding factor in the choice to parent on your own or pursue an adoption plan. If you’re not confident in your partner’s commitment level, or if you are certain you don’t want to share co-parenting responsibilities, consider talking to a client advocate at Avail NYC.

#3: Will I Be Able to Finish School?

While it’s certainly possible to finish school while pregnant or after giving birth, it does present a challenge, and it’s important to realistically evaluate your chances of successfully juggling both commitments. This is another situation that will require you to lean on your support system of close family and friends. Research what tools and resources are available if you choose to complete high school, college, or graduate school while parenting, such as whether your school offers daycare or if there are any local resources like Avail NYC that can connect you with low-cost child care options.

#4: Can I Financially Support A Child On My Own?

Diapers, formula, and other necessities for infants can be pricey, but the costs don’t end there—once your child is born, you’ll find yourself facing 18 years or more of increased clothing, food, utility, and housing costs. Those who are struggling just to support themselves may find the added costs of a child burdensome, but there are plenty of programs and organizations that are willing to help parents shoulder the financial responsibility.

#5: Will My Job Provide The Flexibility I Need?

Some jobs and industries are more family-friendly than others. Regardless, you’ll want to consider all viable childcare options, along with your employer’s policies, otherwise tight work schedules may pose some serious challenges. These are tough situations, but many employers are legally required to accommodate working parents, so it’s important to have a discussion with your boss or human resources department to fully understand your options.

#6: Is Child Support Available?

Even if your child’s father chooses not to be involved, he may be legally ordered to pay child support after birth. This can help defray many of the costs of raising a child, but does require you to be at least somewhat financially dependent on someone with whom you no longer have a relationship.

#7: How Is My Health?

While pregnancy cravings for ice cream, pickles, and a variety of other less-healthy foods abound, pregnancy can be hard for those battling chronic conditions or other health concerns. It’s important to evaluate all risk factors with a licensed medical professional, such as an obstetrician, so that you’ll remain healthy throughout your pregnancy.

#8: Do I Have Other Children To Consider?

Not all unplanned pregnancies are first pregnancies, and considering the current demands of other children can help you navigate the various alternatives to parenting.

If you’re facing an unexpected pregnancy and aren’t sure where to turn, Avail NYC and their team of compassionate client advocates are there to help support you. Call today to make an appointment or learn more about their free, confidential services.

Avail NYC exists to be a safe haven for women and men facing an unexpected pregnancy or seeking support after an abortion. We are not a medical provider. 

 

Do Pregnancy Calculators Work?

Do Pregnancy Calculators Work?

One of the first questions women ask when they learn they’re pregnant is, “When am I due?” Knowing your estimated due date allows you to plan for a healthy pregnancy and to be prepared for the baby’s arrival. Pregnancy calculators can be effective tools in approximating your due date, but it’s important to understand that any calculator you use will only be able to offer an estimate, and that the odds of delivering on that exact date are slim.

How Do Pregnancy Calculators Work?

Whether you use an online pregnancy calculator, or you had your due date projected by a doctor or midwife, there are typically two methods used for calculating your due date. The first option is to estimate the due date based on the date of your last menstrual period. The second option is to base the estimation on the date of conception.

To calculate your due date based on your menstrual cycle, count 40 weeks from the date of your last period. To calculate your due date based on the date of conception, count out 38 weeks from the exact or approximate date you think you conceived.

How Accurate are Pregnancy Calculators?

According to BabyCenter, only about one in 20 women deliver on their due dates. It’s important to understand that a pregnancy calculator based on your conception date will offer a good approximation of the baby’s arrival. However, most women don’t know their exact conception date, making it difficult to calculate an exact due date. It is also possible that conception did not occur the same day you were sexually active, as your egg may have been fertilized a day or two later by sperm that was waiting in the fallopian tube.

For this reason, most health care experts recommend calculating your due date based on the date of your last menstrual period. Even using the menstrual period method, you’re still only left with an estimated due date. A doctor or midwife may alter your due date during your pregnancy based on the results of an ultrasound test that will indicate impacting factors, such as the size of the baby. To be best prepared for the baby’s arrival, use a pregnancy calculator as a guide, but know that you may ultimately deliver any time within one or two weeks before or after your calculated due date.

Pregnancy Support Services

Avail NYC offers a variety of pregnancy support services and referrals to help women and couples facing an unplanned pregnancy remain healthy and prepared. Contact us today to learn more about how we can help you to make an informed and confident decision.

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Avail NYC exists to be a safe haven for women and men facing an unexpected pregnancy or seeking support after an abortion. We are not a medical provider.