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Pregnancy and abortion are complex experiences. Let’s be real; they affect both men and women. Whether or not you’re in a relationship with your partner, you need time and space to process on your own.

Talking with someone you trust is a great way to evaluate how you're feeling and what you value. If you'd like, you can talk with one of our male Personal Advocates who are trained to help you process your experience without any judgment. We even have support groups to connect you with others who know what you're going through.

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Many men don't take the time to process their emotions, thinking an abortion or pregnancy doesn't affect them as much as it does the woman. But, not processing how you are feeling about everything can become pretty overwhelming. You may be unsure of how to cope and what you should do next. A great first step is to begin to process your thoughts before sharing them with others.

Process Your Thoughts

I'm having unresolved feelings about my partners' abortion.

You're not alone. It's common to feel a mix of emotions after an abortion, even if you and your partner feel confident about the decision you made.

Studies reveal that men often don’t start processing pregnancy loss until two years afterward. Why is this? It’s usually because they have been so focused on helping their partners that they don’t allow themselves to process their own emotions about abortion.

It's not always easy to talk about your abortion to friends and family members who might not understand the complexity of the decision you made. Sometimes you just need a confidential, non-judgmental place to process your thoughts. Our Personal Advocates are compassionate, unbiased, and have their own abortion experiences to draw from.

When you're ready to talk, we're here to listen.
How can I support my partner in her pregnancy?

Whether your partner’s pregnancy was expected or unexpected, it’s normal to feel a mix of excitement and anxiety as you think about the future. It’s normal to wonder how things will change for you, your partner, and your relationship. It may also feel like you’re sitting on the sidelines while your partner is experiencing the pregnancy firsthand. Your role is so much more than sideline supportive. It’s active and crucial.

Avail supports women and men by offering a safe place to talk through your experiences and questions, especially when facing an unexpected pregnancy. If you have further questions or think your girlfriend might be pregnant, make a confidential appointment with a male Personal Advocate to get started. All services are free.
My partner and I want to talk to someone.

Whatever you're feeling, we're here to listen.

No matter where you are in your journey and what you ultimately choose to do, there's no right or wrong way to feel. Sometimes you just want to process. Avail exists to be a safe place where you can do just that.

Our Personal Advocates listen to you and your partner, putting you both first. Our goal is to provide unbiased support, a listening ear, and resources to help you own your story. Find a time to talk and let us know if your partner will join us.

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