Expressing Tough Decisions to Disapproving Loved Ones

Avail NYC exists to be a safe haven for women and men facing an unexpected pregnancy or seeking support after an abortion. We are not a medical provider. 

Even the most independent thinker is likely to hate the thought of disappointing friends or family members, so communicating a choice that you’re sure the listener will disagree with can be stressful. It can be tough to openly express your desire to take a different path than what others might choose, especially when this path can lead to potential consequences.

If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy and aren’t sure how others might react to your ultimate decision, it’s crucial to prepare yourself for some tough conversations. Read on for some tips and tricks to help ease this process and ensure you’re able to fully express your feelings to your family members or other loved ones.

Practice, Practice, Practice

Practice can improve just about any speech, especially in emotionally charged situations. By practicing what you’re planning to say and anticipating the responses you might get, you’ll be far better prepared for the actual responses. You may even want to bring along an index card or a notebook when preparing to tell your decision to your loved ones. This can help you if your mind goes blank or if you feel especially anxious before you begin.

Anticipate (and Answer) the Most Common Questions

After learning of your unexpected pregnancy, your loved ones may have a lot of questions, from “where will you live?” to “what about school?” By anticipating and having responses already prepared for some of these questions, you’ll be more confident as you reveal the news to your friends and family. Rest assured that you don't have to have every decision made right now. Also, if you’d like to keep your reasons for your choices private, thinking through them on your own can be helpful to the overall decision-making process.

Don’t Feel the Need to Justify Your Decisions

Often, these conversations can quickly put the person making a choice on the defensive. You might feel compelled to provide multiple reasons for why you’re making certain decisions. While providing these reasons can help the listener realize that you’ve put a lot of thought into this decision, it can just as often devolve into an argument.

Regardless of whether your family or loved ones are supportive of your decision about an unplanned pregnancy, Avail NYC is here to help. We’re a resource-focused organization that gives women and partners the support they need to make a confident decision. If you’re pregnant and not sure what to do next, schedule a free appointment with one of our expert advocates today.

Avail NYC exists to be a safe haven for women and men facing an unexpected pregnancy or seeking support after an abortion. We are not a medical provider.