7 Ways to Honor Your Story

Avail NYC exists to be a safe haven for women and men facing an unexpected pregnancy or seeking support after an abortion. We are not a medical provider.

Everyone has a story of struggle and strength that is waiting to be acknowledged and honored in its own time. As you navigate through life's unexpected twists, whether facing an unplanned pregnancy or reflecting on an abortion experience, it's important to recognize the depth and validity of your emotions. 

Your experiences and mix of feelings are unique, deeply personal, and worthy of respect and care. That’s why it’s important to honor your story and those moments of vulnerability, courage, and resilience. It is not just an act of courage but a step towards growth and healing. 

As we move forward, know that your experience is unique, but you are not alone. There are many common ties that connect the many diverse stories of women and men who have faced an unexpected pregnancy and/or have had an abortion experience. There is strength in honoring your story and honoring the stories of others, and comfort in understanding support. This is a journey about honoring yourself and your experience and the strength you’ve already shown along the way.

1: Acknowledge Your Feelings

The first step in honoring your story is acknowledging your feelings. Give yourself permission to experience the full range of emotions as they come, from confusion and grief to relief and joy. These feelings are valid, no matter how conflicting or fleeting they may seem. 

It's normal to experience a whirlwind of emotions, and recognizing what you’re feeling is the first step toward better understanding yourself and your journey. Allow yourself to think about and accept your emotional state and the way it evolves. 

When you take the time to think through how you are feeling and process them, you create space for self-compassion and self-awareness. Let yourself freely explore what you’re feeling without judgment. This process is about naming and validating your emotions, and recognizing how those feelings shape your experience.

2: Reflect on Your Experience

Self-reflection is a redeeming practice that allows you to look back on your experiences with a lens of compassion and understanding. By reflecting, you give yourself the opportunity to process your emotions, understand the decisions you've made, and recognize the impact of this journey on your life. 

Many studies show journaling to be helpful for processing all kinds of emotions and experiences. While traditional journaling with a notebook and pen is effective, you can tailor it to fit what you need. If physically writing isn’t restful, try typing a private note on your phone or vocalizing your thoughts on a walk or alone in your room. 

However you decide to practice self-reflection, remember to focus on finding the strength in your vulnerability and the growth that comes from the challenges you’ve faced. Finding clarity and peace in your story, recognizing the lessons learned, and remembering the resilience that has brought you to this moment all honor the story you’ve lived.

3: Celebrate Your Resilience

Sometimes when difficult situations arise, people doubt whether they showcased strength. But, honoring your story means looking back on your experience and celebrating the strength and bravery you embodied as you navigated the challenges of an unexpected pregnancy or an abortion experience. Recognizing that you've overcome and continued to move forward despite the hardships builds your self-confidence for future challenges and points to your natural ability to persevere. 

This celebration can be a personal affirmation of your strength, a moment of gratitude for the journey, or a symbol that represents your resilience. It's essential to honor yourself for the courage it takes to face difficult situations and to recognize the growth. Celebrating your resilience is a testament to your ability to overcome and to find hope and strength in the midst of challenges.

4: Memorialize Your Journey

Honoring your story may also look like commemorating the journey and the emotions involved. While some prefer not to commemorate their journey, others find comfort in remembering their experience. Both perspectives are valid, and you should listen to what your own needs and desires are. Choosing not to memorialize does not mean that you do not or cannot honor your story. However, if you feel that you want to memorialize your experience, consider honoring it by creating something lasting and meaningful.

This could be through writing, art, planting a garden, or any other form of expression that resonates with you. Memorializing isn't about forgetting or moving on; it's about acknowledging and commemorating your journey as a key part of what has made you who you are today. It can serve as a reminder of where you've been, the strength you've found, and the growth you've experienced. This act of remembrance can be a powerful step in processing and embracing the journey ahead.

5: Prioritize Self-Care

Self-care is a vital part of honoring your story. Practicing self-care involves taking the time to nurture your body, mind, and spirit in ways that bring you peace, comfort, and strength. 

This could involve activities that you enjoy, practices that promote relaxation, or simply allowing yourself time to rest and recover. By prioritizing self-care, you practice recognizing your own worth and the importance of your well-being. It's a reminder that your health, both physical and emotional, is foundational for flourishing. 

As you care for yourself, you honor your story by affirming your value and taking an active role in your restoration.

6: Share If and When You’re Ready

Choosing to share your story is a deeply personal decision and one that should be made on your terms. Sharing can be a powerful tool as you process and can offer a sense of connection. Realizing that you’re not alone can provide comfort, foster understanding, and create a community of support. 

But, it's important to share only if and when you’re ready. If it feels like you have to tell someone, remember that this is your experience and that you are in control of who you share it with. There is no timeline you have to follow. You can share your story if and when you’re ready in a way that feels safe and right for you. 

Whether it's with a close friend, a support group, or through creative expression, sharing your journey should be empowering, not overwhelming. Honor your story by finding your voice and using it in a way that supports your journey.

7: Seek Support

Seeking support is a courageous step in honoring your story and navigating your journey toward living empowered. Reaching out for support is not a sign of weakness. It is proof of your strength and commitment to well-being. When you recognize when you need help and are open to receiving it, you can find new strength and confidence. 

Support can come in many forms, from friends and family to professional counseling and support groups. At Avail NYC, our trained experts offer compassionate, non-judgmental support in a safe space for you to share as much or as little as you want to. For those who need support after an abortion or those facing an unexpected pregnancy, our personal advocates are here to listen, provide resources, and walk with you through every step of your journey. You don't have to do this chapter of your story alone. 

Avail NYC exists to be a safe haven for women and men facing an unexpected pregnancy or seeking support after an abortion. We are not a medical provider.

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